I have been following the story of Nadya Suleman, the California woman who gave birth to octuplets less than two weeks ago. Many voices have been raised about the direction that science is leading us. I have watched her interview on NBC and saw her joy for having fourteen kids because she loves kids.

This story also uncovered all kind of speculations, such as that she was a Black woman because she was unemployed and lived with her mother. It turned out that she is not Black. That proves again the stereotype about African American people.

I have to say that a “normal person” cannot make such a decision if not a calculated decision in order to get national attention. Likewise, the sperm donor who is a friend of hers. Honestly, it is difficult to comprehend how two minds can agree on a wrong decision if it is not a premeditated decision. How can we blame people who say clearly that this is a case of child abuse? Speculations are growing about a book deal or being paid for an interview or being on Oprah — a typical reality in America. In such a situation, donations flow, volunteers give their time to help.

But, the reality is that the sperm donor is not the husband. And with fourteen kids, even though she sees herself as “superwoman,” it will be a very exhausting challenge to raise these kids. As the Bateke of Gabon say, “If sweetness be excessive, it is no longer sweetness.”